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My dad has always loved sport and from a young age he has pushed me to engage in as many sporting activities as possible. With my dads support i took any chance i had in joining a sport related team in school and outside of school, however growing older my mum thought it wasn't necessary for me to participate in sport so much as i wouldn't carry it on to a professional level. Because of this i didn't participate in much team sport and started exercising myself at home and at the gym. As well as this, my grandfather is very religious and wasn't keen on the idea that i participated in so much sport, on many occasions he has stopped me from going to the gym as he says that it isn't allowed in Islam due to the dress code and many of the activities such as lifting weights.

Your grandfather stopped you from going because he said it is not allowed due to the clothing. Does he believe all sports is forbidden in your religion?
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During my school years my family were not too bothered about me taking part in physical activity primarily I think because I was young and because it was compulsory at school. However, when I entered year 9 at the age of 14 my family made it clear that PE lessons would not be compulsory for me at school beyond this point so they influenced me to pick different options for my gcse’s and focus on different subjects rather than PE. I wouldn’t say that my family forced me to do anything however they definitely became less supportive towards me taking part in physical activity as I got older and therefore told me that I should stop and focus on things that would help improve my career. My family do not view physical activity as being important which is why I think they aren’t so supportive towards taking part in exercise or sports. However, my mum still thinks that a certain level of physical activity is important and therefore we go for walks every two or three days.

Do oyu know why your parents are not as supportive, and have they specifically mentioned what you should focus on?
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My family are active and do a lot of physical activities so it's not a problem at all. I sometimes get a lecture for not doing any sort of sport or exercising, this just shows how supportive and concerned about their health and mine. However some family members would be disapproving or not seeing the point of doing such things.

Another member (babycakes95) almost mentioned that it is not the first family, but other family member who disapprove of the engagement in physical activity. Why would they feel that you shouldn't participate?
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My family have supported me in physical activities, exercise and sport, my dad in particular, he has always pushed me in sports ever since I was young and if it wasn't for his support I would not be physically active like I am now. My dad still pushes me and supports me in going to the gym on a daily basis however my uncles disapprove and would prefer me not to as they do not think it is important or necessary for me to do so.

Why do your uncles disapprove of your engagement in physical activities, do they have a reason?
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When I was younger I was very into my supports, mainly football, and used to enjoy taking part in any sort of sport. There were certain sports I couldn't take part in because I had asthma so it was difficult for me to participate in activities such as cross country and even sometimes football as I wouldn't be able to run too long without having to take a break. When I got to about age 11, my parents told me I was no longer allowed to play football as I used to play in a predominantly male football team and it wasn't appropriate. I think the fact my parents restricted me from playing football influenced my thinking towards exercise in general and I just gave up because I wasn't able to play the sports that I wanted to. Now that I'm older exercise and physical activity is something that I want to do because it makes me feel good in myself but I don't have much time to exercise as much as I'd like too and I also lack motivation even though it is something that I want to do.

why did your parents feel it was not appropriate to participate in the team you did at that age?
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In the past my participation in physical activity and sport has been influenced simply by the enjoyment and happiness I felt when doing certain activities and also by friends and school teachers and colleagues. Participation in physical activity when I was younger was also compulsory whilst at school so therefore that definitely contributed to my participation to a degree. My decision to stop taking part in regular physical activity was influenced greatly by my parents and my own views on physical activity. In my parent’s opinion, physical activity is not of significant importance and that other things should be prioritised ahead of activity. Therefore, they have always made clear that I should not worry too much about taking part in physical activity and focus on other things instead. In conjunction, my decision to not take part in physical activity was also influenced by my own personal feelings towards the inappropriate clothing that is worn when engaging in activity. I also do not see physical activity as a priority at the moment and would rather focus on my studies and my future.

What are the things your parents have mentioned that you should focus on so much to leave you no choice but to stop engaging in your enjoyed activities?
 
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My main influence of not participating in physical activities, exercise and sports is my religious belief. Being a young veiled (hijabi) muslim is difficult to partake in sports, as not mainy institutions/gyms have girls only facilities which would allow the young muslim to be freely participating in activites and exercise. Regarding my family they are sporty and motivate me to be like them, I don't necessarily take part in sports but at home I try to do workouts to keep me fit.

You say religious belief influences you not to participate, what are these beliefs that make you feel eliminated from some exercises?
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If I had the time, I would participate in more physical activity as I feel it is essential to your well being. Unfortunately, I am unable to exercise as much as I would like.

I have exercised in mixed gender environments before and did not have a problem with it. In my experience, everyone at a gym is there for their own individual reasons and do not really notice anyone around them as they are busy working out.

Members of this forum have mentioned clothing as being a factor in making them feel uncomfortable in participating in front of males which is why they don't. what is your opinion on 'appropriate clothing' being worn when participating in front of males?
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A) Participating in physical activity and exercise is important and everyone should make an effort to have some sort of physical activity in their lifestyle even if it is just a walk. Even this small amount if physical activity can help to keep an individual fitter and healthier than if they were just to do no form of exercise or physical activity at all.

B) My feelings about participation in open, mixed gender surroundings do depend on the activity/sport that I am partaking in. For example, I wouldn't be comfortable swimming in front of males. But dressed appropriately I wouldn't mind using the gym (treadmills etc) but would feel awkward and uncomfortable using the weights in front of the male members. If I do go to a mixed gym I make sure I am covered up appropriately so I feel more comfortable whilst working out.

Another member also mentioned 'appropriate clothing' would allow them to participate comfortably in running, what is your definition of appropriate clothing and why is it necessary in the gym?
Also, why would you feel uncomfortable using the weights in front of males?
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A)   As previously mentioned I certainly believe that participating in physical activity is essential as it has the ability to provide many health benefits. Whilst I was younger in particular during the years I spent at school I thoroughly enjoyed taking part in physical activity and sport and always looked forward to the next PE class or after school club. At that period of my life I never took part in any activity for health benefits but just as a means of having fun with my friends. I was comfortable in engaging in activity as I was doing so with people that were familiar for example friends and colleagues and in the familiar surroundings of my school. However, over the years as I have gotten older I have been able to learn that physical activity is vital because of the many benefits it provides and that there are many health problems associated with being sedentary. Therefore, I think that once I learnt of the potential health benefits related with physical activity I begun to view participation in physical activity of greater importance. Although I now know of the greater benefits of physical activity I do not view it as being a priority and therefore I no longer take part in regular physical activity but do still try to ensure that I do not remain sedentary. I think now that I am older I do not feel as comfortable taking part in physical activity as I did before.
B)   As I mentioned I do not feel as comfortable taking part in physical activity as I did before and one of the contributing factors is open, mixed gendered sport facilities. This uneasiness stems from the fact that I feel uncomfortable taking part in activity wearing certain types of clothing needed for activity whilst being amongst members of the opposite sex. The clothes required for the majority of physical activity in particular my favourite forms of activity which are gymnastics and swimming I feel are too revealing and do little to cover my body. I feel that certain types of clothing give males a negative impression and taking part in physical activity amongst Muslim males makes me feel uneasy more so than those who aren’t Muslim. In the past certain Muslim males who have seen me taking part in physical activity have spoken to my parents voicing concerns about me taking part in activity saying that’s it isn’t important for women and that the type of clothing worn is inappropriate and therefore I should stop.

You say that since you have gotten older you do not feel as comfortable, why is this? if mix gendered sports and clothing did not really effect your participation as a child why has it changed now?
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